Friday Frivolity

Happy Friday!  I’m sure every one is gearing up for a spooky, scary Halloween weekend.  I thought about doing a more traditional pre-Halloween host – costume ideas, favorite Halloween flicks, or perhaps an Andy Rooney-esque rant of how annoying it is for tweeners to roll old folks for candy – but as soon as I read about Slackistan, I knew I had to post about it!

Slackistan is a film about being young, aimless, and underemployed in Islamabad, the city that one character claims “always sleeps.”  The film debuted at the 2010 Abu Dhabi Film Festival and received rave reviews for being the international love child of Reality Bites and Swingers.  The story centers on a young filmmaker who is aimlessly living his days with a sort-of girlfriend and posse of friends.  When the characters graduated, democracy had just been introduced in the city and as the film meets up with them five years later, the quarterlive malaise they feel is directly parallel to the stagnated hopes of the entire country.

Based on the reviews and Internet feedback, the film sounds like it’s a great peek at how the post-collegiate experience transcends culture and societal bounds while at the same time examining how difficult it can be to be an artist in a city where the main character can’t get his hands on a copy of Mean Streets and bemoans the lack of 1970s film classic piracy.  Plus, as you can hear in the trailer, the film has a great use of local, indie Pakistani bands and a low-budget retro vibe that film geeks will love.

The film doesn’t have US distribution yet but be sure to check out the website and YouTube clips (trailer below) and keep an eye out for it when it is released!

NY Times Backlash

As you may recall, the New York Times recently explored the trials and tribulations of 20-somethings and it caused a bit of backlash in the comments section.

Psychology Today has a great response to the article here.  The author takes the stance that a lot of the criticism from the article was unfair and that the young people who defended their generation had every right too.

Talking amongst my friends about the article, we all basically agreed that it was a little too generic and a little too condescending to make an impact on our lives but thought some of the research cited was interesting.

Definitely check the link for a great perspective on the quarterlife debate.  Also, great reference to St. Elmo’s Fire.

Words of Wisdom

Any idiot can face a crisis.  It’s day to day living that wears you out. – Anton Chekov.

I’m definitely feeling this way lately.  I feel like I can be exceptionally focused and productive when facing a crisis – unexpected unemployment, financial challenges, relationship situations, etc.  But the day to day of life can sometimes wear me out.  It sometimes feels like I can only cope in big pictures worries and get overwhelmed with my daily life.

Or maybe I’m just feeling restless and unfocused because I’m traveling to NEW YORK CITY next week and I am so ready to hit the road.


Profiles in Post-Collegiate Courage: Abe Loper

Calling courageous post-collegiates! Our interview series has been so popular, it’s going to be a regular blog feature!  Want to nominate a courageous post-collegiate to be featured (including yourself)?  Email postcollegiateblog [at] gmail [dotcom]

This week, I was fortunate enough to get some great advice from a professional source!  Abe Loper is the Executive Director of the Young Professionals of Central Virginia, an organization dedicated to finding new ways for young adults to connect with the community and grow both professionally and personally.  Since Abe works daily with post-collegiates, I thought  I would pick his brain on advice for getting the most out of life in your 20s.


Abe Loper at the YPCV offices in downtown Lynchburg

Abe, please tell us a little about yourself and your background for our readers.

I received my Bachelor’s degree in both English and Visual Arts from Albion College in Albion, Michigan, and hold an MBA in Organizational Leadership from Liberty University in Lynchburg, Virginia.  I’ve worked in the educational and nonprofit sectors for seven years, lecturing and hosting workshops at the University of Chicago, Loyola University, DePaul University and others throughout Chicago and its suburbs.  I developed curriculum for programs aimed at helping go guide at-risk young men in urban high schools on the West side of Chicago and have spoken as a business consultant on the topics of workforce retention, leveraging social media, and generation gaps in the workforce.

While living in Chicago, I was appointed to train new employees in product awareness and sales skills at a regional telecommunications company after consistently receiving honors as top sales associate in the region.  Currently, as you know, I’m the Executive Director of YPCV where I get to work along side the Economic Development Council, Local Government Council, and three other organizations that make up the Region 2000 Economic Development Partnership.

As Executive Director of YPCV, I’ve led rebranding initiatives, reworked the organization’s strategic plan, doubled the organization’s membership, and provided leadership to the over 900 young professionals who have sought involvement in YPCV.  I’m also a founding member and Vice President of the Social Media Institute, an organization bringing knowledge of online marketing and social media leveraging to businesses throughout Central Virginia.  Finally, I’m a published guest columnist for the Blue Ridge Business Journal and, and have been featured in both the Lynchburg News and Advance and Lynchburg Business magazine.  Last, but certainly not least, I’m married to the woman of my dreams, my best friend, Emily, and we’re expecting our first child, a son, this November!

That’s quite an impressive resume!  What was your initial plan when you graduated from college?

My initial career plan when graduating from college was to work in full-time nonprofit work.  I wanted to change the world.  I had fire in my eyes, a lot of energy, and the determination that I was certain would move mountains.  I imagined that I would live in a small hut overseas someplace and that the world would remember me as someone great.

Quite an ambitious dream but one I think many of us share.  Many readers write me about how idealistic they are at 22, 23 and how that changes in the real world.  What are some things you’ve done since graduated that weren’t part of that original plan?

After college, I did get hired by a nonprofit and, after extensive fundraising, I was assigned to train and mentor college students in Chicago.  The job was incredibly fulfilling, but it wasn’t exactly what I had had in mind for changing the world.  I took a sharp turn in my career when I quick that job and became a mortgage broker.  From there, I sold cars, took time to mentor young men, sold internet services, and now, am working in economic development.  Honestly, none of my current life has been part of the plan.  I was even engaged to marry a girl, 6 years ago, who called off our wedding.  My current life is nothing like the life that I had envisioned for myself…it’s better than I could have hoped for.

Abe with students at Sweet Briar College

What are some of the most common concerns that you find in your work with YPCV?  What advice would you give to young professionals right now?

It seems that young people are often times overly concerned with being entertained.  Our generation has a short attention span and isn’t used to looking for what we want.  Companies and products are thrown at us by marketers on TV, the internet, in print, billboards, text messages, radio, mail, on our grocery receipts, and everywhere else we turn, and as a result of this continual onslaught, we have forgotten how to search for what we want.  We’re not a very proactive group of people.

I try to tell young people that with the right attitude, almost anything can be fun.  And, regarding finding a job, that any job is better than no job.  Too many YPs are unwilling to take that “in the mean time” job.  I can tell you right now, if I lost my job today, I’d be applying at Kroger, Chik Fil A, and Sears, by tomorrow.  Also, I tell them to apply for jobs that they think they would enjoy, even if they’re not “qualified” for them.  If you have a degree in education and you’d like to manage an HR department, apply for the open position.  Let the employer decide whether or not to give you an interview.  Don’t make their mind up for them by not even applying.

As someone whose been unemployed, I can definitely attest to the importance of being proactive about your job search as opposed to waiting for the perfect job fit!  Aside from being proactive, what advice would you give to recent college graduates about the challenges they’ll face?

The challenges facing recent grads are significant.  The job market is a tough one, traditional investment opportunities (it’s never to early to start thinking about retirement) aren’t very profitable, and, to be honest, most Baby Boomers, and even Gen Xers, (the groups doing the hiring) have a negative opinion of current graduates.  It should be comforting, however, to know that there are jobs out there.  You probably won’t get your dream job right out of school, but nobody really does.  You have the opportunity to move to almost any city in America and know that, within a few years, there will be jobs available in that place.  Because the job market is so weak right now, you can be fairly certain that it will at least pick up a bit, at some point.  This gives current graduates the luxury of picking their city before they pick their job, knowing that an “in the mean time” job can give them the time to make connections in the city of their choice, laying the foundation for a successful job search when the market improves.

The YPCV Members participating in Day of Caring

Many of our past profiles have discussed the power of random happenstance.  Is there an example of that in your own career?

Is there ever!  This story is also an example of the power being proactive.  When my wife and I were dating and decided to get married, I was living in Chicago and knew that I would have to find a job in Lynchburg.  Emily (my wife) was working as an English instructor at Liberty University at the time.  So, I logged in to my LinkedIn account and did a people search for “Lynchburg+Liberty+jobs”.  I was looking to find a person, anyone, in Lynchburg with whom I could find some common ground and who may be connected to someone who could hire me.  The first person that appeared in that search was the VP of the Chamber of Commerce.  I messaged her and told her my situation.  She was incredibly helpful and offered to share a few conversations over the phone with me, as well as some leads to companies who were looking to hire.

A month later, after applying for the position with the Young Professionals, which I had found online, I called my contact at the chamber and asked her if she knew anything about the job.  She immediately told me that she was sorry, she would have to hang up the phone, because she was on the search committee for that position and that she did not want to create any conflicts of interest.  I complied.  Months later, I got a call from another member of that search committee asking me why I had not responded to their request for answers to a set of essay questions.  I told him the truth.  I had not received any essay questions.  Instead of assuming that I was no longer interested in the position, they had called me to ask if I had received the questions, and that only because the Chamber employee on the search committee had emphasized that I was incredibly serious about my job hunt and wouldn’t have blown the essay off.  The committee postponed the review of the essay questions for 24 hours so that I could pick up a hard copy of the questions and return my answers in person.  After making the cut with my essay responses, several other interview steps followed.  Two days after returning from my honeymoon, I received a call from the interim Director indicating that YPCV would like to offer me a job.  I believe that there’s purpose behind everything, but agree that what appears to “random happenstance” has played a large role in my life and career thus far, and will likely continue to play that same part.

Finally, if you could go back to your college graduation day, what advice would you give yourself?

I would tell my self to respect the gravity that every one of my decisions holds.  I would remind myself that drive, intelligence, training, and self-promotion are less important than kindness, peace, integrity, and perseverance.  I would remind myself that any job is better than no job and that every job is within my reach.  I would force myself to memorize what have become my three work-related sub-pillars (below the four listed above): Think positively.  Be daring.  Move fast.

The YPCV members working with Big Brothers/Big Sisters

Many thanks to Abe for sharing his experiences with us and giving some great advice!  If you live or work in the Central Virginia region, you absolutely must scope out YPCV on the web – become a fan on Facebook, follow them on Twitter, and attend an event.  I encourage readers to find their own young professionals group in their area – it’s a great way to connect, meet people, and jump start your career!  As always, feel free to leave additional questions in the comments section!

Music Monday: Bob Dylan

I’m having one of those days where I just don’t want to work for the man.  I wish I could win mega-millions or find a ridiculously wealthy sugar daddy (or mama – I’m really not that choosy) and spend time just doing the things I love and worry less about being a responsible and productive member of society.  On days like these, I like to rock out to this Monday’s musical selection and shake my fist of fury at the man.

Maggie’s Farm by Bob Dylan

A favorite song of infamous Dylan fan Obama, according to Jann Wenner of Rolling Stone, Dylan’s Maggie’s Farm is beginning to become increasingly relevant for a new generation of youth.  Although the song is essential a protest song against protest music, Dylan’s assertion that he has a “head full of ideas and they’re driving [him] insane” speaks volumes to those of us who to jobs where we’re underchallenged or lack a job at all.

While for Dylan, Maggie’s brother, pa, and ma may represent an industry that was trying to restrain him, the people getting rich off his talent, and the audience that drove demand for something he didn’t want to produce, I think it’s easy for each of us facing job-related frustration to draw parallels with our own struggles.

After all, as Dylan says,

Well, I try my best
To be just like I am
But everybody wants you
To be just like them

Have a great suggestion for Music Monday?  Drop us an email at postcollegiateblog [at] gmail [dot] com or leave us a comment!

Friday Frivolity

Happy Friday, my friends!  It’s been a productive week for me, with job interviews during the day, blogging at night, and the receipt of my first post-college unemployment check!  It was such a momentous occasion – I should have taken a photo of the state-issued debit card to send to my proud parents.

Being on the government dole while unemployed allows me to maintain an important element of balance in my life – mainly, keeping my balance on a bar stool.  While I solemnly swear to use your tax dollars for the sole purposes of remaining non-homeless, this link I stumbled along seems ideal for how I plan to spend the coinage I dug out from the couch cushions:

How To Have A Bar Fight

The best part?  Collecting your street cred.  Have a great weekend – and stay safe out there 😉